What is it Like Being an empath?

Like a superhero, an empath has the special ability to sense the emotions of others. There’s a difference between empathy and sympathy. If someone is feeling empathic, it is recognized as sharing someone else’s actual perspective, whereas someone simply feeling sympathy for another, is mainly just a concern for the other person’s feelings.

Empaths are very highly aware of their energetic surroundings. Some are even highly powered in telepathic abilities or floratic energy, which simply means one can connect and feel the emotions of plants. But as fancy as this world seems from the outside, living with it can be quite challenging. Especially, if one is unaware they even have this special power. Most empaths are in the dark about their gifts. However, the more developed empaths are, the more they seek to help and heal others. Just like a sponge, they absorb energy and emotions from everyone around them which actually helps them to be more sympathetic to others in need or hurting. Some are even called in by law enforcement, like myself, to assist on numerous cases. It takes a special superhero to help officers do their job better. I’m no superhero but I sometimes feel I am the sword to their armor by helping them get ahead in the game of violence. Like the unseen army of dark, these entities seek to destroy not only this planet but any soul that seeks to learn and grow in spirit from it. It’s my honor to help such men and women in that field. It’s hard to get up, place that uniform on KNOWING you have a target on your back!

There are, however, many positives to being an empath but the challenge is honing that gift all the while protecting yourself. Being an empath has two sides: the visible in combination to the invisible. It is not uncommon for an empath to “freak out” or “shut down” around others. As a business owner, I am expected to be happy “go lucky” every single minute of each day but there are days when someone will walk in and I will completely shut down. I can feel every visible and invisible emotion and unspoken energy vibe coming from them. If I stay in the shop for too long, with people coming in and out, I can become completely drained like a battery by mid-day. I will want to be smothered in pillows and blankets yawning my way to sleep. Which is why I’ve come up with several methods to protect myself, which I will share with you in this blog.

Absorbing Energy

Being an empath can be very confusing. They are constantly being assaulted by emotions and can’t figure out why they feel the way they do, and therefore can’t address the core issue causing it. Emotional empaths are very sensitive, so sensitive, that they can absorb any negative emotions coming from others in their own body, and sometimes even actually take it on physically. So when an empath is around somebody who is anxious, they can absorb that energy into their body, when it isn’t even their own anxiety. Hence, for example, why we suggest, at the shop, a crystal called Goldstone. Keeping this stone around you at all times, helps to subside any empathic anxiety you are absorbing from others around you.

As a medium, I tend to take on the emotions and even the physical attributes of past loved ones. If Nanna had a heart attack, I will feel the side affects of having an actual heart attack. If Dad had walked with a cane before he passed due to a knee injury, that spirit will make sure that the energy goes through my body so I can feel the suffering they endured, firsthand, so I can relay EXACTLY who they are for the client sitting before me. In one group reading, a past soul came forth to show me she was strangled to death. The invisible suffering grabbed hold of my body, keeping me from breathing. My assistant and the host of the group had to help me off my chair in order to take me out of the room so I could get away from the energy and breath, again. In these types of situations, I CAN NOT put up a protection because if I did, I wouldn’t know who your family is coming through. So, I consciously choose not to protect myself.

What’s mine is not what’s yours!

I am often asked, “How can I tell what are my emotions and not someone elses.” This is actually easier than what most make it. You know yourself better than anyone else. You can pick up that you are either a normally a happy person and if you suddenly become angry or depressed, you will actually know something’s awry. Let me show you an example of how this works. Last Saturday, I was feeling great and actually had a wonderful nights sleep, the night before. I came to the shop feeling rested and happy. About 2 hours later, my mood quickly shifted to frustration. It didn’t take me very long to figure out I was feeling Justin miles away in our home stressing out over a leak in one of our upper bedroom ceilings. The unique part of my Empathic Ability, and at times it can be a curse, is feeling the living, the souls crossed over, and I can feel either of these energies from very far distances. So far as Ireland, Australia, London, Italy and Singapore where I have many clients. Energy goes where it is being called upon or sent. The second you take spirit and energy out of the societal mind frame of trying to contain it into one idea, you allow spirit to be exactly what it is. FREE!

IF GOD MADE YOU IN HIS IMAGE… HIS SOU’S ENERGY NOT A PHYSICAL COSTUME… AND HE CAN BE EVERYWHERE ALL AT ONCE, SO CAN YOU IN SPIRIT!

Doesn’t matter if you are at home or at Starbucks, energy is energy. It isn’t contained but rather roams wherever it decides to go. I remember being out of body during the first accident in 2009 and while in this state of heightened awareness, all it took was ONE THOUGHT… a millisecond of a second of a thought… to spiritually move to another place or area. If I wanted to be in the hallway of the hospital, instead of standing next to the bed my body was laying in, I simply placed the fast acting thought into my spirit’s mind and BAM! I was there, in the hallway observing the hard working nurses and doctors merrily going about their day helping heal the sick that surround them in every corner.

Another important aspect of being detached from the body is the heightened empathic energy you feel from others. I could feel my sister’s emotional concerns and frustrations with what was happening to me. When you feel a soul living a human life while your in spirit form across the veil of protection, you can feel other’s emotions at heightened levels unknown to Earth. You can also hear their thoughts as if they were speaking directly to you on a telephone but for a spirit to reciprocate that communication back, they must use fragmented words, clips of pictures, play out old memories in your mind, play music with lyrics that create a worded message from them, show signs that you know is them and/or manipulate objects like tv’s, radios, phones, even toys to show their presence because the energy here makes it hard to get a signal through. So, it’s our job, especially as an empath, to be more observant and aware of your surroundings in order to pick up on these energies.

An empath needs to become more mindful and practice quieting their soul in order to fully understand the energies around them and how to discern what these energies are doing to them. No one knows your body and your moods better than you. You would be the first one to pick up on a change that you KNOW isn’t yours. Once you notice these subtle changes, you can use any of the methods presented in this blog to start on a path of protection over yourself. This new path is so very exciting… Give yourself a pat on the back for getting this far in life with such a challenging ability.

How do I know what’s going on with me?

An empath can take on A LOT of energy but I am about to teach you how to distinguish between your own feelings and health issues as opposed to someone else’s whether living or none or if you are being plagued by dark attacks.

If you are around someone that has health issues, you will IMMEDIATELY feel some or all of their ailments. When I am with a client who is getting a healing done by me, I can immediately tell if they are having a shoulder issue or maybe chronic headaches, or even a knee issue. Those energies do not stay long. With these kinds of encounters, one must always take measures to protect oneself. If you don’t protect yourself, those ailments can last hours, even days, before that energy dissipates but no longer than that.f it lasts longer than that time frame, you have something more going on. I show you more in this blog how to protect yourself in the information provided below. So, keep reading! 🙂

If you are having everyday mental and physical issues, that is part of your soul contracts learning, and can’t be removed unless you mindfully heal it yourself. Many take on certain health paths and mental illness issues in order to learn better from these experiences. I find these souls be very heroic in their soul contract decisions. By taking on such burdens, they are choosing to walk tough paths that no one fully understands except them. Yes you can overcome it and yes you can heal from it. BUT it takes SOUL POWER and mindfulness of control over your own thoughts in order to do this. That is why it’s a tough path to learn from and why I commend anyone who takes on these types of learning paths.

If you SUDDENLY have more than a month of depleted energy you’ve never dealt with before, this can be of a more sinister attack upon your energy that looks to distract you from your purpose of learning. This is so you can no longer move forward with your path. It almost stalls your learning, in a way. The symptoms of this kind of attack are as follows:

Rapid fatigue that happens very early in the day
Depression for no known reason
Impatient, more testy than normal
Lack of clear thinking
Mood Swings, not yourself (these are different than your normal bi-polar systems that you may have had all your life)
“Leaky Aura”
Muscle tension like you are carrying heavy boulders
Sudden headaches and/or nausea
Mental confusion
No hearing your Guides like you had before or dismissing their guidance
Suddenly hating the smell of sage(s)
Feeling grumpy all the time
People acting weird or suddenly not wishing to speak to you
People suddenly turning on you when deep down they know you and wouldn’t normally do that
Over eating out of no where
Confidence starts to disappear
Constant bad luck, forgetful, slip ups
Feeling less than yourself
Thoughts of doing bad things to yourself
Hearing voices, being told what to do, being pressured relentlessly (Guides do not do this and they never TELL you what to do… they guide you to options and YOU choose due to your free will of learning from a path)

Do not worry about angering these beings for they cannot hurt you unless you allow them to. There are many methods to ridding this type of energy but the top most are calling in Michael, the Angel that rids dark, placing a shielding of white light around you and placing the Blood Of Jesus over you, PROFESSIONAL cord cutting, and/or keeping your mind happy, fun, and positive. Entities HATE it when you are having fun and laughing. They will eventually get bored with you and move on to their next easy target. Once they do, pray that that person (soul) has the power to do the same as you.

Am I an Empath?

Energy is very strong and when you are an empath, most do not fully understand what you are enduring. ONLY another empath can fully understand the trials and challenges one goes through on a day to day basis. Empaths are born not made! They are generally very understanding towards others and often times will ask questions rather than make snap judgments. They intuitively seem to “know” there is more to a story than what meets the eye. Watching TV, videos on media, or movies brings out their emotional sensitive side. News and broadcasts show violence and can cause great emotional drama to an empath. Anything violence depicting shocking scenes of physical or emotional pain inflicted children and ESPECIALLY animals can bring an empath easily to tears and cause great distress.

Empaths aren’t people who “read” the future or even predict paths. Rather they “read” people and situations. They’re often problem solvers and thinkers. They will study many things. Where a problem is, so too is the answer, as far as empaths are concerned.

So, what are my symptoms, Doc?

Heightened Senses like your sense of smell or sight, even hearing and touching. You may even taste energy. For example, I will smell rotten flesh when something dark lingers near or a will feel the air swirl around my hand when Jesus comes around me.
You will have a heightened awareness to your feelings with others around you. You may feel their pain in their body and upon asking them, “Hey, do you get pain in your right shoulder blade?” and they confirm… you know your awareness is heightened.
Noises may startle you or you may choose to be around quiet energy and avoid loud noises.
You may be easily hurt by others and even be heavily moved to tears because of the emotions stirring inside you.
Overly sensitive or even called a hypochondriac.
Sitting next to someone you suddenly become heavy and tired. Suddenly wanting or needing a nap.
You tend to “shut down” in crowded situations or even feel sick and uneasy. Or it will take you awhile to warm up to the people around you in that crowd.
You tend to run from doctors or any medical tests that may need done, telling yourself, “You’ll be fine.”
You have many unexplained symptoms and doctors can’t find the answer or you are constantly tired and drained of your own energy.
You stay home rather than venture out into the world and explore. You prefer your couch rather than places that can enlighten your spiritual learning.
You tend to KNOW what is actually going on with someone despite what they are actually trying to tell you. I call this the “BS” detector test. (An empath can take the body language, the spoken words, and even the energy behind the words spoken to them all at the same time. When an individual is feeling something but acting or speaking something else, instinctively the Empath knows this.)
Great desire to help others.
You read body language very well. Especially in the eyes.
You are most drawn to a healing profession or medical field career. Maybe even an active rights path.
You will avoid conflict at any length and prefer to be in situations where harmony surrounds you. You seek calm over chaos.
You “feel” the atmosphere around you.
You “sense” something around you. Goosebumps, tingles, shivers.
The weather may affect you in a sensitive way. You may feel more exuberant than most on a warm sunny day, whereas, someone else would think of it as just another day. (Psychiatrists that are diagnosing a patient that they are unaware is an empath with what they call “manic” is simply a situation that an empath deems is joyful or even fulfilling which is often taken on as energy. This energy then comes into the physical as a symptom that is very similar to euphoria. These patients aren’t manic but rather overly sensitive to joyful fulfillment. The medical community DOES NOT KNOW how to treat Empaths sadly due to non-training and uneducation on the subject.
Animals and even children flock to you like treats and candy. Animals smoother you in love.
Music is your language and you use it often to express yourself. You even feel lost in the melodies as if your from another time, another place.
You think more with your heart than with your mind. Leaving the Ego in the dust.
People divulge their whole life stories to you. They feel safe around you, even strangers you’ve never met.
You want to move mountains to protect people and animals that are being wronged but then feel overwhelmed in how to do so.
You emotionally dissociate from others that you know are bad but you can’t prove it physically.
You tend to deal with insomnia or random sleep patterns that are never abled to be controlled.
You take on other regular symptoms like nausea, headaches/migraines, dizziness, constipation, anxiety, body temperature changes, and lethargic as an everyday thing. So much so, you can count on having one or more of these symptoms per day.
Feeling powerless over your life or situations, when in reality, you have full control.

Which Empath are You?

Medium Empath – feels the presence of spirit; feeling, hearing or even seeing them.

Prudent Empath – the most common empath. They do not make a move in a situation or life without making sure the outcome goes smoothly.

Claircognizant / Intuitive Empath – the ability to know when someone is misleading others on purpose.

Psychometric Empath – receives energy impression messages from non-organic items, like a piece of jewelry.

Emotional Empath – feeling a person’s emotional pain on a deeper level than normal, “muggle” people.

Physical (Medical) Empath – feels physical pain of others that can manifest itself in the body of the empath. If someone has a migraine, the empath can feel this pain in their own body.

Precognitive Empath – senses something will happen before it does. This empath also has insightful, prediction dreams.

Geomantic Empath – senses signals coming from Earth when something bad is going to happen.

Fauna Empath – interacts with animals and feels them on a deep, emotional level.

So Now What Do I Do?

I bet you’re saying to yourself, “Wow! I’m like 98% on that list. Now, what do I do? How can I tell others how I’m feeling and how do I accept this gift now that I know I am one?” I recently was attacked on Facebook by a woman that came to my shop that thought I was rude to her and her son. This mortified me because one I don’t recall this person coming in nor do I remember what I was doing at the time. What I do know, and I’ve mentioned it above, I encounter many energies and when faced with certain ones, I tend to shut down. This is in no way meant to be mean to anyone but rather how my psyche calculates the environment and immediately goes into what I refer to as “energy survival mode.” As an empath, you can make others understand nor can you argue with them over how you feel. NO ONE should be telling you how you feel. I felt like my ownership over what I may have been feeling that day, was taken from me and I had to explain myself, when in reality, I was never going to change this woman’s perspective of that day. I tried to explain but to no avail. Remember… you can change others but you can change yourself. I choose to ignore the rantings and move on to more happier things. By doing this, I took back ownership over my own feelings.

You as an empath must learn to do the same. Stop making excuses for being exactly that… A WONDERFUL, AMAZING EMPATH! Yes sometimes we get in weird moods. We sometimes can’t help that. Our own psyche is simply trying to figure things out in the midst of things happening around us. Give yourself a moment to talk to your Guides and listen to how they guide you in a situation. They will never steer you wrong. If you encounter someone that you know is draining your energy, politely explain your emotions and that you may need to walk away for a few seconds to regain your energy because your energetic chemistry isn’t matching theirs at the moment and you need to step away in order to feel better. You can also explain that this is normal for you. Yes, their energy is draining you but most individuals aren’t even aware they are doing this to others and we, as loving empaths, must understand their own learning path.

I have a dear friend that is like this. I’ve recently had to explain to her how her energy has been affecting me and that I’ve had to back away from our friendship because it was draining me. I explained why it was draining me in hopes that she could adjust how she comes at me when we are interacting. This worked for a few days but then she was back to her normal self and I’ve had to pull away, again. See, most don’t know they are doing these things, even when you point it out to them. They are learning in a certain way and the only person you can change, is yourself!

We love our family and friends dearly but sometimes we have to pull back so we have enough energy to help others, as well as ourselves, and this is ok to do. Your Guides understand, firsthand, how you are learning and whom you are learning from but they also understand when you need a break from that learning. Remember… there are no right or wrong paths. Mistakes or failures. There’s just learning. How you learn is up to you. NO ONE can learn for you!

Accepting Who You Are..

It took a long time for me to accept my path as, not only a medium, healer, and teacher, but also as a high vibrational empath. I arrived here with the veil lifted and found walking in spirit on Earth was very difficult for me. Maria, my Guide, know of my struggle. But one day she had a long talk with me. She, in so many words, sat me down, and said, “If you don’t accept who you are, how will anyone else?” Her words ripped through to my core. So, I ask you today… Will you accept yourself and your special empathic gift no matter what others think of it? No matter how one thinks of your gift their perception isn’t going to change suddenly and your gift isn’t going to go away suddenly. So, why not simply accept it and see where your life takes you. Others aren’t learning what you are learning nor are they living your life. So, why would you allow their perceptions to rule what you do with your own life and learning? I let that that simmer inside your mind because I have a strong feeling you know I’m right! Be proud of who you are and don’t allow others to dictate who you become in this world. If I did that, I wouldn’t on the path of helping others with the messages I know nor would I be here writing this blog for you all.

Empowering the Empath

By placing energetic, mental and emotional boundaries with people, you are setting a precedence in your battle against energy absorption. You are showing others that you are strong and have the power to protect yourself. Daily protective empathic techniques will keep your energy on track. You can either carry or wear protective crystals to keep your protective barrier up all day. You will also find cleansing your aura daily and mainly, EVERY NIGHT, will be beneficial to your success as an empath. Unless someone is an empath, they are unlikely aware that their energy is rubbing off on you. Understand that they are learning and growing in that learning just as you.

So, what is your aura, really?

Think of it this way… Imagine yourself as a mini planet. Noooo your not fat! Silly! Ha Ha…

All joking aside, think of yourself as a mini planet. What does a planet have around it? It has energetic layers that scientist’s call the magnetosphere and ionosphere. This is a double layer that provides Earth with protection. But I like to call it “Earth’s Aura.” Just like Earth, you have a protective layer, as well. This layer keeps your soul safe from outside unseen forces that seek to deplete your energy. Like Earth’s layers of protection, it is meant to keep us safe from the outside spacial rays of the Sun that could burn us. So, it protects what’s inside! Just as your aura protects your soul.

While empaths are compassionate and understanding, they are also highly sensitive and at times, physically affected by the energy around them. It can leave them feeling depleted from the several interactions of their day. Where one may feel normal to an energetic, highly fun situation, the empath is completely overwhelmed and drained of his/her energy. So, what does one do when fun or high energy situations deplete you? Well, let’s take a quick look at some cool techniques to help you, as an empath, regain your sanity!

For Crystals Sake…

Shield Yourself!!!

Sit quietly in your sacred space of your mind. Take a few deep breaths and visualize a shield of steel around your aura. In the shield, is a small diamond shaped device that contains a vacuuming system. Flick the red switch to on. Visualize the air between the armor and your aura begin to shrink. Your aura will envelop you like a tight scuba suit. This suit will not only protect you but it will help you become invisible to others that may deplete your energy from around you.

Now, grab your Black Tourmaline crystal and visualize in your mind, preparing to walk into the stressful situation (aka work, Walmart, or a restaurant, etc). Hold your head up high KNOWING your suit is on. This will prepare your mind before walking in. If you are sitting in your car, do this before getting out and entering the place you need to go. You will then place the protection prayer over your aura of shielding. “I call upon Michael, the Angel of Protection, to my side. I am protected. I am safe. I will not be drained of my energy. The Army of Michael, in Jesus royal blood, has watch over me and my soul’s surroundings.” Repeat the words until you feel the shield is strong enough to take on the environment around you. You will then be ready to end the visualization practice.

Gather your things and take your Black Tourmaline and even a Selenite with you. These can even be worn as jewelry. (Selenite removes any energy that is not yours and maintains your own soul’s chemical balance. It also clears your energy field, ensuring your energy is 100% your own!)

You may use the Video Blog “Shield Yourself” example below to place the shield up around your aura and help calm your energy before entering a place that gives you stress. It can be used daily to cleanse and clear your aura of any unwanted energies.